xfactor’s blog

Dedicated to reality

2008-11-09T08:29:17Z

It's a sobering reality to face that the person you love is a pathological liar. The problem lies in not ever knowing what about your relationship is true or false. You can't decipher the truth. The best you can do is try to put the pieces togethe...

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Comittment and Love

2008-10-11T16:20:08Z

I used to tell people that when an alcoholic stops drinking, it won’t solve all of the family’s problems. In fact, it might create new problems. The alcohol covers up a lot of problems. When it’s gone, certain of those problems become visible. I...

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Love makes you beautiful

2008-09-08T02:08:44Z

This will be a 2-fer. 1 My title is not original. It comes from Terrence Howard's new CD, Shine Through It. The song is lovely. I was telling my friends yesterday at a wine tasting that I'm going to adopt a new motto for now: to be beautiful. L...

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The Stillness of Presence

2008-09-06T16:33:06Z

"In the stillness of Presence, you can sense the formless essence of yourself and in the other as one. Knowing the oneness of yourself and the other is true love, true care, true compassion." --Tolle I've been there and I'll tell you what, it's l...

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The Road Less Traveled

2008-09-04T16:23:41Z

We were on the Road Less Traveled. Now, we're off. The sad thing for me is that getting off the road was a unilateral decision that I had no opportunity to participate in. She simply sent me an email, titled "My Decision". For me, the Road Less T...

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Coming out of my shell--Esquire Best Dressed Real Man!!

2007-05-05T17:33:50Z

Last week, my friend insisted that submit some photos to the Esquire Best Dressed Real Man contest, which is held on-line at Esquire.com. I thought not much of it and initially declined the invitation. But after much prodding, I took her up on the...

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Dallas Mavericks

2007-04-30T22:40:08Z

My home team is going down the tubes in a hurry. They are on their way out of the playoffs so fast all you can see is the smoke rising from the gym floor. Here's my analysis for what it's worth. The Mavs are being taken down by the Golden State W...

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Time is ticking

2007-04-07T01:02:39Z

My house is fully of clocks tastefully positioned on walls and occasionally sitting atop a surface. As I sit in my office or in my family room, the clocks are ticking away. Sometimes, if it is quiet enough, the ticking sound is particularly acute ...

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Focus on life in the now, not later

2007-03-28T02:33:57Z

Lately, I've been thinking quite a bit about the spiritual life and the notion of eternal life. An enormous amount of thought, be it theology or popular spiritual literature, dwells on life after life. We as Christians base much of our living on o...

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Taking care of my side of the street

2007-03-11T18:50:49Z

In worship today, the pastor preached an elegant sermon from the poem, Knots, by Carl Dennis. It is an amazing poem that deals with the knots that people's lives are filled with. At least, according to her interpretation. In her unpacking of the p...

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